Author Unknown..... We Gotta Do Better!!!!!

Author Unknown -

When I first heard of the movie "For Colored Girls" I got so excited. I had the idea of getting as many women together that I could think of to go see this movie. I had visions of group discussions and moments shared with one another that would lead to healing and growth, I guess I kind of imagined a Womens Empowerment Conference type of setting.Well after I shared my idea with a few women, reality set in and I realized that so many of us wouldn't be willing to participate for various reasons: You don't like me, you don't care for somebody I might invite, you only hang out with certain people, you don't understand the big deal about Tyler Perry making yet another movie about black people and our issues for all the world to see, you don't like crowds, so n so is too ghetto, such and such is too uppity etc... It has ALWAYS amazed me that we as black women are each others biggest critics. We are the quickest to bring each other down, find each others faults and nit pick at a sister until she has nothing left, nothing left to give and then we step over her and call her worthless. We take the prettiest women and tear them down for thinking "they are cute" but turn around and dog the average sista because "she know she should take better care of herself than that - can't believe she got a man!" We call strong women female dogs and accuse weaker women of riding somebody else's coat tails. We tell a big sista to put down her burger and turn around and criticize a skinny woman for not picking one up. We ride the loud mouth woman for "talking to darn much" and likewise torment the quiet woman for "Being too quiet and needing to take up for herself" Sad part is we don't discriminate, we talk about everybody!!!I've watched women dog out everybody from Oprah for catering to white people and Halle Berry for not being able to keep a man to young Willow Smith for acting to darn grown in her recent video. All of these females are successful and there is something about each one of them to be proud of but a lot of us can't seem to see that. I have to wonder since we all share a common thread (whether we want to admit it or not) is there something about ourselves that we don't like, what has happened to us that we cannot seem to get along. Why is that we fight amongst ourselves, backstab & steal each others men(only to find out we should have left him where we found him). We cannot seem to be unified to support and stick up for one another. Everybody seems to be out for themselves while other groups unite against us but nobody else has to bring us down because we trample on the spirits of each other daily. Even if you live in a mini mansion, drive a luxury car, have good credit, rich handsome husband etc, this does not mean that should look down your nose at the woman with 4 kids, no husband, living in income based housing struggling to keep her lights on. We ALWAYS think the grass is greener on the other side, I had a woman who's child father is MIA tell me that I should never complain because I receive a decent amount of child support and I laughed and let her know that I would gladly give every dime back if he would come relieve some of this overwhelming pressure of feeling inadequate as a parent. If I could get just one full night of sleep or not always be on the verge of losing my job because Im the one that has to call off or leave work for one reason or another to accommodate my child - yeah he could DEFINITELY have his money if I could have some peace! Money alone doesn't make you happy (not true happiness), good credit doesn't keep you satisfied, beauty doesn't make you any less insecure, fame doesn't make you less vulnerable or cause you to be a good judge of character and being stuck up and mean doesn't keep you warm at night or prevent you from being lonely.You don't know how the sista sitting right next to could have carefully put on her make up this morning to hide the beating from last night. The teacher you handed your child over to this morning could have sent her children off to school from a dark house with empty bellies. The teller you just got rude with at the bank could know that today is her last day on her job and have no idea how she is going to survive past next weekend. The sista at the office that appears so busy could be typing her goodbyes to all the people that she loves because she plans to blow her brains out tonight after she tucks her babies into bed. The woman you pass in the hallway could be on her way to have an abortion because she fears what others might think or how the woman that sent you this e-mail may drink an over abundance of alcohol every night to mask the nightmares of an abusive childhood. Ladies we HAVE TO DO BETTER!!! I'm not suggesting that we all like each other and be phony, But I am asking that we all try to respect each other. You HAVE NO IDEA what the next woman is going through, you don't know what past or current hurt and pains have shaped her into who she is today. We spend so much time trying to be as strong and hard as we are expected to be that we end up cracking from the inside out piece by piece. If we would spend 1/3 of the time we spend tearing each other down to build someone up, encourage someone, show someone some love, we could truly make a difference and save someone's life. PLEASE don't be the straw that breaks another woman's back. Believe me when I tell you that there is a woman out there that needs your smile, your hug, your support, your prayer. I hope that you read this and get something out of it other than a laugh and that you pass this on to as many women as you can to let someone know that you believe they are somebody special and that if need be you are available to listen. Nothing bad is going to happen if you don't forward this e-mail but I'd like to think that something positive will happen if you choose to pass it along. May favor be extended to each and everyone of your lives, keep your head up and know that someone somewhere cares!!

Someone Once Told me.....

After a while you learn...

The subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security and you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child and you learn, to build all your roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much so you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers and you learn that you really can endure you really are strong you really do have worth and you learn and you learn with every goodbye, you learn.....


(This is not written by me I just love this, Someone sent it to me when I really needed it and I kept it, just incase I ever needed it again. Today I feel like someone else can use it, so im sharing)

Pain is a part of life and even though sometimes it feels like the worst part, It can be the most amazing part too. We learn so much about ourselves thru heartache and the more we learn the more growth is possible. Im so much stronger today than I was when I needed these words.... This too will pass, just make sure you take from it what you need and use it to grow.

I love all my followers ........ Big hugs and Smooches.

The Tattoo

I feel you deep inside of me.
Deeper than my skin,
Deeper than my body
You flow thru my veins
You're embedded in my soul
Everlasting
An unforgettable impression
Incredible,
I love you
So much it hurts
But the pain is pleasurable
So much it works
Our souls connect
My flesh submits
You give substance to everlasting.
You put the sun and stars at arms reach
And nothing seem impossible
You give me hope,
I give blood,
I give body
I give love
I give forever
You make it possible
For love to exist
I give flesh
For your name to relish

Those Damn Oils....

I smelled you the other day,
Walked thru a crowd of people

And smelled the oils you used to wear.
I looked around,
but you werent there.
I went to the stand and brought the oils just to burn in the house.
I just needed that feeling your presense brings.
But without your essence,
The oils did nothing for me.
Every now and again the universe tortures me with a breeze,
And I smell you briefly.
I used to love that scent,
Now I hate that shit.

Lips I cant Forget...

Lips like pillows,
Soft and send me Dreaming
Lips so soft, I dream about them.
Send me yearning,
Moaning.
Lips like heaven,
I die to go to them.
Lips like honey,
Sweet as the words from your mouth
Lips that make me humble,
Make those words come out my mouth.
Lips that speak and make my lips wet.
Lips I just cant forget.

Purify Me

Rain down on me,

Baptise me in your holy waters.

Wash away my sins with your purity.

They say you are what you eat,

Well I want to be an Angel.

So I burry my face deep between one,

And taste Heaven.

Taste rain and dew drops,

taste babys breath, until i see stars.

I want to see stars.

Go to other planets, another universe.

I travel out of this world into your abyss,

And find Bliss there.

Rain down on me,

Baptise me in your holy waters.

Wash away my sins,

and make me pure again.

How could this be a sin when it feels so right?

I feel like I've died and you just gave me life.

Rain down on me,

Baptise me in your holy waters.

If this is a Sin, make me pure again.

Rain down till puddles form,

Until pools form,

Until I can swim in it,

And Baptize me in your Holy Waters.

HeartBreaker

Heavy are the shoulders of the one who carries the emotions of others...

They used to say I was gonna be a heartbreaker for as long as I can remember and sometimes I wonder if they subliminally hypnotized me into being just that....
She said I should have come with a caution sign:
Caution she is her father’s daughter
Caution: she would rather push you away than feel vulnerable
Caution: when things get too emotional she shuts down completely- do not take this as she doesn't care - but as she just doesn't understand and would rather focus on something she can control
Caution: she moves on quickly, not because it’s easy but because it’s easier
Caution: Easy to fall in love with, but falling in love with her will leave scars.
Caution: she will love you with all of her heart the best way she knows how.... Doesn't necessarily mean you will ever fully understand or it will ever be enough for you.
We are taught by our families and relationships with people how to love.... How do you learn to be emotional if that's not the way you were brought up? My family spent so much time making sure I was tough enough for this world that they didn't take time to teach me how to be vulnerable or compromising. Suck it up, don't wear your heart on your sleeve, these people will eat you up if you let them, don't be a sucker, trust no one, protect yourself, never give or let anyone borrow more than you can afford to lose........
They used to call me a heart breaker and somehow I feel like they programmed me to be just that.

She said I should have come with a caution sign...... And I told her..... Never give anyone more than you can afford to lose.

Saddest Girl I've Ever Seen.......

She's the saddest girl I've ever seen
And I can't help but stare at her
I wonder if it’s a man or a woman that broke her heart?
Did someone die, or betray her?
Where the scars on her arms and face came from?
Why she's not carrying anything?
Everyone carries something? Why is it so strange to me that she doesn't have a pocketbook or book bag, a shopping bag or anything in her hand at all. She looks like she has a lot of emotional baggage maybe that's enough for her to carry right now.
She's beautiful... But something’s keeping her from being pretty
She looks tough, like she don't take shit from no one, but weakened like she just lets someone shit on her anyway.
I want to hug her, cuz she looks like she needs one
I wonder if she has children?
Where is she going?
Where is she coming from?
Where has she been?
Where does she want to go?
I see hope in her eyes behind the despair. I can tell she's still fighting. I want to say something enlightening to her so she doesn't stop fighting. But I think she might take it the wrong way, or look at me like bitch mind your business. I can tell she attracts people to her but she looks so lonely sitting on the seat by herself
I want to ask her about her story but she looks like she doesn't have the time or energy to explain. She sees me staring and just looks the other way.
I can't take my eyes off of her and when the train reaches her stop she gets up and I catch her eye again I simply say "long day huh" and she sighs and replies. "Yeah another one"

I want to kiss those lips.

Thick and magnificent

I want to taste those lips

Wet and waiting

Lips made for kissing

Made for me

I want those lips to kiss

Kiss and kiss my lips

Thick and wet

Soft I bet

Damn those lips put kisses on my mind

From time to time

Wish they were on my lips

Wish they were below my hips

Wish they were anywhere

Everywhere

Put them there

Oh I want to kiss those lips

Watching as words fall from them

Wanting to tell them

Those lips I want to kiss

Thick lips Made for kissing

Made for me

Made for kissing me

Kissing my lips

Wet and waiting

Waiting for my kiss

Waiting to be kissed

By those thick wet lips

Letting Go......

Today I realized that I'm holding on to too much baggage, too much fear of failure and entirely too much of my past situations, whether physically, emotionally or mentally. Where is the room for my future to come in? How can I grab on to what's ahead if my hands a full of this bullshit and baggage from the past and present? I gotta let this shyt go. Right now I have nothing that I want to bring into my future but these things in my life bring me security for whatever reason... Why? I want to live dangerously and trust that there is security in my future, in my dreams. Why do we hold on to people, things, situations and places that don't make us happy? Why do these things bring us security? We stay in situations that make us unhappy, hurt us and sometimes disable us because we are fearful. If you’re not happy in your current situation what are you really risking? losing something we don't even want? That you won't be happy in the next situation??? Seriously?? Fuck this bullshit job, I. Want my own shyt, I want to grow, this relationship keeps me stagnant, this apartment is way too small, my dreams are way too big. Today I'm making a promise to live dangerously. Live insecurely in the things I have, willing to let them go and be faithful that I will acquire the things that I need and want. From today on...If this is not something I want in my future, I'm dropping it to make room for the things I do want. I'm willing to let it all go, so that I have no choice but to grab hold of the future that awaits me. I'm willing to Risk it all.. The bigger the risk the bigger the gain. Scared money don't make money...it’s time to Man up!