Broken Wings

One day along my journey I came to a resting place, I was approached by a little bird. She was the most beautiful bird I had ever seen, and something about her eyes captivated me, we chatted and I fell in love and we traveled quite some time together and one day I asked the little bird to fly away with me. She looked at me sadly and told me that she could not fly away even though she desperately wanted too…. She explained that someone hurt her and left her broken, broken wings can’t fly…… I stayed as long as I could with my little bird hoping that I could fix her broken wing and we could fly away together….. but the wing didn’t mend and I had to continue my journey alone. Sometimes along our journey we find people or situations that hurt us, they leave us broken and we take on emotional baggage…. The challenge is not letting that pain keep you from flying….. A part of healing is accepting and letting go.

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.

Heart Broken...........

I just wanted to share this video with you…. I love this video, it’s so raw, emotional and so true. It’s crazy how when we are hurt in a relationship it’s like our heart doesn’t even belong to us anymore. Your just so hurt or void; we carry that emptiness to the next relationship not able to give our all because someone else still has our heart or a piece of it. I wish it were easy to let go of emotional baggage sometimes, easier to collect all the pieces of our broken hearts back from the people who stole them. I wish more people could be whole. I think the main reason people can’t do this is because they can’t accept that the relationship is over. We need more acceptance and less expectations. We build up these huge expectations for a person and a relationship and when they fall short or it ends, we find it hard to accept that it’s over. The people in your life are a reflection of you….. If things are not working out it’s because that person no longer reflects who you are. I mean relationships should be as easy as friendships. It’s hard to accept that you are growing apart in a friendship, I know for me I grown apart from friends as we have taken different paths. But when my friends no longer reflect or represent who I am, I have no problem letting them go. But why is it that when this happens in a relationship people try so hard to keep it together. I mean sometimes people even go as far as thinking they can change someone. People are brought into your life for a reason, season or lifetime. Accept that everyone will not be able to stay……but everyone has a purpose in your life. (Even the bad) Learn from each experience and move on. The more you hold on to that baggage the less room you have for someone worthy in your life. Let’s take back the pieces of our hearts people….. and nurture them with the lessons learned.

SoulStar

Difficulties.........

Today I'm going to share something from one of my favorite philosophers...... Osho this piece is called Difficulties and sometimes I like to read this passage to remind myself that I can use every experience as a stepping stone and that every block in the road has a purpose. I hope you all take from it, what I have..... enjoy.



SoulStar.



Difficulties are always there. They are a part of life. And it is good that they are there, otherwise there would be no growth. Difficulties are challenges. They provoke you to work, to think, to find ways to overcome them. The very effort is essential. So always take difficulties as blessings. Without difficulties, we would be nowhere. Bigger difficulties come- that means that existence is looking after you; it is giving you more challenges. And the more you solve them, the greater challenges will be waiting for you. Only at the last moment, difficulties disappear, but that last moment comes only because of difficulties.



So never take difficulty negatively. Find something positive in it. The same rock blocking the path can function as a stepping stone. If there is no rock in the path, you would never rise up. And the very process of going above it, making it a stepping stone, gives you a new altitude of being. So once you think about life creatively, then everything is useful and everything has something to give you. Nothing is meaningless. --Osho

Beware of Vampires..............

Okay I have to admit I’m a huge fan of True Blood and Twilight and I have had this crazy fascination about vampires ever since Brad Pitt in Interview with a vampire. I mean people like Ann Rice have glamorized vampires so much that people just wanna grow fangs and bite someone. I mean come on, vampires are so cool right, too bad they aren’t real. The crazy thing is vampires are very much real and living amongst us. I mean don’t get me wrong they aren’t pale skinned, fang flaunting, night crawling, blood sucking vampires. Vampires look like every day people, walk the streets with us, work with us, live with us and babysit our kids; they are the girls at the beauty salon, and the people you deal with at work. They don’t suck your blood; they just drain your energy and leave you dry and miserable. Some Vampires don’t even know they are sucking you dry, most people aren’t even aware they are victims. Oh but don’t get things twisted, these vampires turn you into vampires as well; They suck you hollow so that your dreams look so far from reality that you don’t want anyone else to dream. So you start putting out negative energy like them, complaining, gossiping, getting mad over nothing then you start sucking others dry. These people are called Spiritual Vampires and they are EVERY WHERE. Think about it, do you have that friend that every time you speak to her or him, you come all excited about something, full of life and energy and excitement, but by the time you leave the person your whole mood changes. You aren’t even excited about your news anymore, you feel drained of your energy and void. I mean sometimes it’s direct; the person has fifty million reasons why you shouldn’t be excited, why your plans won’t work, etc. Then there are times where it’s indirect, instead of being happy for your good news and pushing you towards your goals they just complain about theirs, how life is so bad for them, how they are so miserable, to the point where you are just in such a bad mood you don’t even feel good about your news. Some people know they are vampires (maybe not vampires but that they are being negative) they want to bring you down, they might not even know the reasons why, but they know if you feel as bad as them, they don’t feel alone in misery. I mean seriously think about all the people in your life who are vampires. People who tell you that you can’t do things, that always want to argue about everything, people who are always depressed and bringing you down with their problems. I mean don’t get me wrong, everyone has issues from time to time, but some people dwell on their issues and give them so much power, instead of looking at things in a positive light or doing things to make changes in their lives. These are the people you need to beware of. If you continue to keep these people in your life they will continue to drain you until you, yourself become a spiritual vampire. Fight Spiritual Vampires, Stay positive and focused. Remember that when people anger you it’s one of the easiest ways to you’re your energy. Don’t be quick to anger; try to laugh it off as much as possible. Remember that your dreams are only as far away as you want them to be. Nothing is impossible if you really want it and nothing comes easy. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something or that you can’t be something or that it’s too hard to achieve, never let anyone rob you of your joy. The next time a spiritual vampire tries to suck you dry, smile and let them know they can’t have any of your energy today, you need it.
Happy Monday People…… Smooches
SoulStar

Take that... Take that..... Pow!

Question Ladies, Do you feel like its wrong for an "aggressive" woman to take the strap in the bedroom? Why or Why Not? Please Explain.



I mean my personal opinion is that a woman's body is made to enjoy penetration. So why not enjoy sex the way your body is designed to enjoy it. Just because I prefer women over men doesn't mean that my body doesn't enjoy penetration. I feel like allot of "aggressive" women feel that they are less "aggressive" if they receive penetration from their partner. Why is that? We are all women and technically when the clothes come off you cant tell "femme" from "aggressive" anyway. Shoot "femmes" wanna strap too. lol.

SoulStar

Looking For Daddy????

QUESTION?...DO YOU THINK THAT THE REASON THERE ARE ALOT OF "FAST" LIL GIRLS OUT HERE IS DUE TO NO FATHER FIGURE? (JUST A QUESTION NOT MY OPINION)
TINA

Well Tina,
I myself grew up without my father around and I was never a “fast” girl. I don’t feel like its lack of a father figure, but lack of self esteem. I mean my mother always made sure that I knew who I was and that I valued my worth as a woman. She instilled great values in me at a very young age and nurtured them. My mother always made sure that I knew that I was special and that everyone didn’t deserve to possess something so special. (love my mommy) There are a lot of girls with so called “perfect” families, they have both their mother and father in the picture and they still seem to sleep with anyone who gives them a little attention. A lot of parents feel like if they feed and cloth their children they are doing their job as a parent. I feel like it’s a parents responsibility to instill certain values in their children, bring them up to be proud and to know that they are beautiful. It’s when parents neglect to instill these values that children run amuck. They are then influenced by other people who may or may not always have good intentions. I feel sorry for a lot of “fast “ girls, I feel like they act the way they do for attention, for affection and as crazy as it seems, for love. I’m mean seriously no one wants to be a hoe, they just want to fill a void and honestly I don’t feel like they know any other way. I feel like a lot of parents need to start being parents. I had my son at a young age myself, but I make sure that my son knows everything that I have learned from my life experiences. I know ultimately he will have to make decisions for himself but the best thing I can do is let him know the mistakes I have made and how he can do things better and to make sure and nurture values in him that will make him a strong, loving man. I mean our main job as parents is to instill strong values into our children, these are the seeds they need to grow into outstanding adults. If we fail to do that then there are so many negative influences that will grow like weeds and choke the life right out of our children. These values fill the voids that these girls are trying to fill, without them they will remain empty and seeking.

SoulStar

Homophobia is so Gay!

This guy at my job is a huge homophobe, he’s one of those men that think that women being gay is cool, but is really bothered by gay guys. This irritates the hell out of me. First of all if you are going to be against gay people, why is it okay for women to be gay? (men and their fantasies) I find that a lot of straight men are bothered by gay guys. Not even bothered but actually get angry when gay guys are around as if they are going to get attacked or something. Now of course I have to stand up for my gay fam and defend them. So I ask him “what bothers you so much about gay men?”. He goes on to say , “it’s the way they act, they are so feminine”. He doesn’t like the “hand motions” they make when they talk or the tight clothes they wear and how they are “so extra” with everything, or that they talk with “soft voices” like they have to prove they are super gay. Smh. So I said to him, what if it bothered me how you have to come in here with your voice all deep, acting all hard like you run shit, wearing your clothes to big for your body and being all extra “manly” like you have something to prove. I mean come on, not all gay guys are flamboyant (stereotype) and some look just like regular “manly” men. Then he goes on to say that he doesn’t want a gay man looking at him and what straight men hang with gay guys?”SMH. I told him that a majority of the people that are homophobes or gay bashers are insecure with themselves or have desires they are trying to suppress and that a secure man can hang around anyone and still be secure in his manhood. SMH, Why do all homophobes think that just because you are gay, you want them? Come on people, to each their own, be comfortable enough in your own skin so that other peoples comfort doesn’t bother you.

Queen Latifah "Cover-up Girl".....

It really pisses me off when Gay celebrities deny being gay. I mean seriously how can Queen Latifah really deny being gay?, Especially after the movie Set it off. lol. I myself have seen her at some gay spots, most recently a few weeks back at Stiletto at Maritime Cabanas, looking very butch might I add. I even let her skip me in the line for the restroom, although i cant say the same for my baby Tha General. lol. And just Wednesday she was spotted at Eden at the Country club another all girl party in NYC. Yet she consistently denies being a lesbian. I feel like as a Gay Celebrity being out is the most powerful thing you can do, if you really want to be a role model or a "Cover girl" let young black lesbians know its okay to be who you really are. I'm sorry Queen you came along way but until you come out of that closet, you really aren't doing anything in my book. Keep it real and stop being a "Cover-up Girl".

Smooches
SoulStar.

More Class and Less Ass.....

SOULSTAR I HAVE A FEW THINGS ON MY CHEST.... WHATS UP WITH THESE GIRLS COMING TO THE CLUB LOOKING A HOT MESS? IM TIRED OF SEEING GIRLS COMING TO THE CLUB WITH SNEAKERS ON. COME ON IF YOU DONT WEAR HEELS OKAY FINE PUT ON SOME NICE FLATS OR SOMETHING. IF I WAS A PROMOTER I WOULDNT LET ANY FEMMES IN THE CLUB WITHOUT HEELS. ALL SO IM TIRED OF GOING TO THESE WEBSITE LOOKING FOR MY PICTURES AND SEE SOME GIRLS BLACK ASS THAT LOOKS LIKE IT NEEDS SOME LOTION OR SOMETHING. SMH. DONT GET ME STARTED ON THE FAT CHICKS THINKING BELLY IS THE NEW CLEAVAGE IN THEIR PHOTOS. SMDH AT THESE GIRLS. IM NOT HATING ON ANY1 IM JUST SAYING U NEED TO CARRY URSELF MORE LIKE A LADY. IM ALSO TIRED OF THESE DAMN STRIPPERS THINKING STRIPPING IS A CAREER. I KNOW A LOT OF GIRLS DO IT TO PAY FOR SCHOOL AND THATS ALL GOOD. BUT DONT THINK THAT SHIT IS COOL. DONT THINK ITS OKAY TO GO AROUND THINKING ITS COOL TO SAY UR A STRIPPER WHEN PEOPLE ASK U WHAT U DO FOR A LIVING.. THATS JUST CRAZY. OH AND UR NOT A DANCER UR A STRIPPER... I JUST WANT BLACK WOMAN TO STEP THERE GAME UP. THE 1ST LADY IS A BLACK WOMAN LETS NOT LET HER BE THE LAST.

Well, I totally agree. I hate going to look at pictures of different parties and seeing Women looking a hot mess. Wearing lingerie to the club, or posing in crazy pictures, all the goodies showing or in some crazy sexual display. I think its trashy and just disgraceful. I think Black women are so beautiful and yet sometimes they appear in such an ugly light. I was looking on a few sites the other day and I saw regular party goers on bars dancing with underwear showing ass out on the bar and I’m thinking to myself, what the hell was going on in there? I’m sorry but I didn’t know stripping or dressing like strippers was the new trend. Just recently I went to a party and a group of girls came dressed completely in lace lingerie. I thought to myself, I didn’t know they were going to have strippers at this party. The bad thing is half these girls don’t even have the bodies to wear the things they put on. If you are going to walk out your house naked at least have the body to do it. Don’t come out and make me lose my appetite or buzz cuz you wanna look a hot damn mess. I don’t like to judge people, I know everyone has a story. But I feel like a lot of these girls just don’t respect themselves. I couldn’t imagine walking around naked and acting like a slut for attention. Do you ever notice that these girls are the same girls at all the parties, acting the same way and that they are always SUPER SINGLE? Why? Because no decent woman would be caught dead trying to wife up one of these girls. I mean by acting and dressing like a slut you are automatically downgrading yourself to a jump off…. (If anyone even wants to use you for that) It doesn’t make you look good, yes people are talking about you, but trust me it’s nothing you want to hear. Sometimes I wonder if these women are delusional? Then I wonder about the messed up friends that let them come out looking like this. Ladies those are not friends. I am all about strong, black, classy women. Real women know how to demand attention in a room, fully dressed and confident. What happened to saving something for the imagination? I think a lot of these ladies confuse sexy for slut. I also agree that stripping is not an answer for what do you do for a living? I understand that some women do it for various reasons, but I would just say that there are tons of other ways to make a living and still be respected, you just have to work a little harder.

Costco done gone bananas............

I was looking on MediaTakeout.com and saw this bullshit. Costco is selling little Monkey baby dolls. Peep the hat on the little black doll baby, it says lil monkey. What kind of bullshit is this? Why the hell does the baby have a plush banana as a toy? Im looking for more information right now, but I seriously want to know the producer of the dolls and what the white version of this doll looks like. SMFH.

If I wanted a man, I'd be straight..........

I DONT UNDERSTAND HOW A LOT OF AG'S ARE GOOD ENOUGH WITH THERE GIRL CUMMING ONLY. UMMM I LOVE WHEN MY LADY CUMS BUT SH*T I WANT A NUT TO. AN AG ONCE TOLD ME IT MAKES THEM FEEL LESS OF A MAN... THAT SH*T THROW ME OFF BECAUSE I NEVER KNEW SHE WAS A MAN IN THE FIRST PLACE. I THINK THESE AG'S TAKE THERE PART A LITTLE TO FAR AT TIMES. GOD IS PERFECT HE DIDNT MAKE A MISTAKE BY MAKING U A FEMALE. HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING. IN THE LABEL WORLD SOME PEOPLE WOULD CALL ME AN AG SOME PEOPLE WOULD CALL ME A FEM- AGREES. I THINK IM A WOMAN AND I LOVE WOMEN THAT LOVE BEING WITH WOMAN (LESBIANS). I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH WOMAN CALLING ME A MAN LOOK AT ME AS IF IM SUPPOSED TO BE A MAN OR PLAY THE PART OF A MAN. THAT DOESN'T SOUND LIKE A LESBIAN TO ME. A WOMAN THAT DATES A WOMAN POSING AS A MAN SOUNDS LIKE A WOMAN THAT LIKES MEN ( STRAIGHT) I DONT F*CK WITH THEM. THEY ARE THE FIRST ONES IN LINE F*CKING A NIGGA BEHIND UR BACK. ALL THE SIGNS WERE THERE, IT WAS JUST A MATTER OF TIME. I HAVE A QUESTION FOR THE AG'S WHAT IS IT ABOUT ACTING LIKE A MAN? Y DO U WANT TO BE SOMETHING UR NOT OR EVER WILL BE, NO MATTER IF U DO GET A SEX CHANGE, OR CHANGE UR ID FROM F TO M. SH*T WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF U GO TO JAIL. UR STILL A FEMALE AT THE END OF THE DAY. IDK. I JUST HAD A LOT ON MY MIND AND I GUESS I GOT IT OUT ALL OUT IN ONE BREATH. LOL HOPEFULLY U CAN HELP ME OUT MISS SOULSTAR.


(Okay we are going to call this person "Tell em why your mad" lol. )

Tell em why your mad,
I agree I think its ridiculous when women refer to themselves as men. They say things like "chillin with my boyz" or call each other " my brother" etc. I am a lesbian and I love being a woman and loving other WOMEN. I agree 100 percent, if I wanted to date a man, I would date a man. Don't get me wrong I have dated "femmes" and "aggressives" and the thing I love most about both was that they were women and no matter how they dressed they were 100 percent women and embraced that. I think being a woman is the most beautiful thing on earth and I seriously don't understand how anyone could deny or not embrace that. I think allot of women that act like men or refer to themselves as men feel like they have something to prove. Its not about being a lesbian its about being dominate or in control. Its kind of retarded though, because everyone knows women hold all the power anyway.......

SoulStar.

I'd knock that up too If I could.......

Daaaaayum..... The latest rumor is the Kanye knocked up Amber Rose. All I'm saying is I understand.....................

Let just hope if the rumors are true.... that body bounces back fast, cuz I'm gonna miss seeing it all over the tabloids.

Super Heroes and RockStars

Okay I am a promoter and I honestly dont deal with a lot of people when it comes to promoting. but I definitely rock with Burrows Ink. They come together and bring amazing poetry to the masses, last month we got Freak Nasty with and Erotic Poetry Showcase and This month we are going bananas with Super Heroes and RockStars and the name says it all. If you need tickets hit me up at SoulStarEnt@gmail.com or buy online at Burrowsink.com directly. Just make sure you dont miss this event.

I cry, you cry, we all cry..... stop frontin

My question is, what's up with older aggressives acting as if its not ok for aggressives to be emotional? Like its not ok for aggressives to cry or show feelings? We are all females at the end of the day, and hell even men get emotional.

(We are going to call this person Emotional AG)

I agree Emotional AG,
First and foremost we are all human before anything, man or women we are emotional creatures and that's what makes us human. I think its ludicrous to act or portray yourself as this hard non-emotional being , why because you feel like if people think you are emotional you wont be perceived as aggressive or in control? (ridiculous) The whole label issue alone is a topic I can speak on forever. We are all women, the most emotional creatures on the planet and to sit and deny oneself emotional expression is just ridiculous. Not being emotional or showing feelings does not make you strong, It actually makes you weak. We all fear, we all hurt, we all have issues that make us want to scream, act a fool or just cry ourselves to sleep sometimes. Going into that fear head on, tears rolling and heart broken is what makes us strong, NOT acting like it doesn't phase us or that we are too tough to let it penetrate us. Denying your feelings does not make them go away. Holding them in does not help you gain the strength needed to heal. I say if there is an older "AG" that tells you its not okay to cry or be emotional at times, next time you see them give them a big bear hug - trust me they need one. As for you, if you wanna cry- cry, if you wanna scream - scream and if you wanna laugh your ass off do so....... Because its thru our emotions that we really experience life and without them are we really living?


SoulStar

Miley Cyrus Stripper Hoe?

Okay first 16 year old Miley Cyrus is dating a 21 year old underwear model, now she is pole dancing at the Kids Choice Awards....... I this really the girl you want your children looking up to? Daddy needs to whip the stripper dreams right out of her ass. This is too much for a 16 year old little girl.

The Object of My Affection........

Someone emailed this topic to me....

Falling for a friend who's in a relationship. Do you tell them how you feel or keep your feelings to yourself? Pros/cons.

Well anonymous person,
I would say if that person is truly a friend to you, do you really want to risk their happiness? Do you really want to put that person and yourself in unnecessary drama? I look at it like this, what begins in chaos, ends in chaos. There is no way of telling a friend that is in a relationship that you have feelings for them without causing extreme drama and confusion. If you are truly this persons friend and truly care for this person, then as a friend I don't feel like you should express your feelings. I have actually been in this situation and Its a difficult position to be in, especially when someone is a part of your every day. But I have learned from experience that expressing yourself in this situation just brings drama. If things are meant to be between you and this friend than you have to have faith that when the time is right, things will be right between you two. But you put your friendship at a serious risk by trying to force something when the time is not right. Everything happens for a reason, maybe this friend is in this relationship so that he or she may learn something that makes you and their relationship in the future stronger. Or maybe you needed to see this person in a relationship to realize that this was the person you wanted to be with. But trust me, there is a time for everything and when its time for you two to be together, there will be not obstacles or other people in the way. Until that time, my suggestion is keep your distance and pick up a hobby or focus your energy on something productive......... cuz this situation can get really destructive if you don't.


Hope I helped. Smooches

SoulStar.

Just putting it out there Ladies and Gents..... I do hair also, specialize in locks and weave an I am priced reasonably.... If you are in the NYC area and need that hook up , hit me up on my gmail. Smooches.

Solange new cut gets a thumbs up in my book

I don't care what others say, Solange is doing her damn thing with the short and natural cut. Big up to all my sistas confident enough to cut it all off. Ladies we all know the bonds our hair put on us.... sometimes you just have to free yourself from all the bullshit and start fresh. I'm loving it Solange, looks allot better than all the crazy lace fronts floating around.... maybe you should talk to Bey about getting rid of some of her cousin It wigs. Kudos to you babe.

Who am I?

Okay people..... Who is SoulStar? Well I am a very complex person, Party promoter, Single Mother, Lesbian, very outspoken and very laid back at the same time. Someone told me that I should be more honest in this section so here it is: I’m fun loving, extremely open minded, I’m a big flirt, a chatterbox, a goofball, I love to laugh out loud and if someone makes me laugh, I love to stay in their company. I can’t stay angry (not always a good thing) and people usually can’t stay angry with me. I love life, my beautiful son, God, my beautiful friends, my experience in life so far, poetry, music and animals. I Love hard and fall harder… But I have no regrets. better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I believe everything happens for a reason and I’m content with the experiences in my life. They have made me the woman that I am today. I love living in the moment, I’m creative and I love expressing it whether thru poetry, or making clothing or accessories. I thrive for new experiences, those that open my eyes to new places, people and things and those experiences that help me learn more about myself on a daily basis. Right now my mind is a sponge and I’m ready to soak up the world…I guess I would say that I’m spiritual but not religious at all. I don’t like being put in a box in any way. I think that labels and religion limits you, so I try not to label any aspect of my life…. On the downside....I can be selfish at times, extremely selfish at others, I hold a lot inside and I'm not as verbal as others would like me to be when something bothers me, I'm the type of person that will tell you once that something bothers me, I may tell you twice but if nothing has changed by the third time, I will remove myself from the situation. I am very sarcastic (sometimes it’s cute and sometimes it hurts) I'm honest but sometimes brutally honest (not many people can handle that), I find that it’s hard for me to be true to myself and still please others (but I try to stay true to myself), I’m always late and I’m trying to work on it because I'm really getting tired of people complaining about it. Lol. I get bored easily, with everything, relationships and people are no exception. I might have slight ADD, lol. (It’s really not funny) My mind wanders, especially when I’m bored.(Some people are annoyed by this, mostly when they are talking to me) I am very passionate, sometimes too passionate, I let my passion take precedence over everything. I have no tolerance for bullshit and little tolerance for ignorance. I'm definitely a dreamer…. I have big dreams and sometimes I lack motivation. I want instant gratification and I have little patience. Money burns a hole in my pocket, I’m an emotional shopper. Oh and I love Makeup (eyeliners etc), Accessories and Weaves (although I haven’t had one in a little while) Some people don’t like it…. I don’t really care, I love changing my look according to my mood. I know I’m beautiful without all the extras, but I have fun with it……… ;)

My friends always come to me with thier problems and told me that I should start a blog or something. So here it is. I hope that you will send me your problems, issues, or vents and value my feedback and outlook on the situation as well. I basically have alot to say.... so im going to say it.