Question Ladies, Do you feel like its wrong for an "aggressive" woman to take the strap in the bedroom? Why or Why Not? Please Explain.I mean my personal opinion is that a woman's body is made to enjoy penetration. So why not enjoy sex the way your body is designed to enjoy it. Just because I prefer women over men doesn't mean that my body doesn't enjoy penetration. I feel like allot of "aggressive" women feel that they are less "aggressive" if they receive penetration from their partner. Why is that? We are all women and technically when the clothes come off you cant tell "femme" from "aggressive" anyway. Shoot "femmes" wanna strap too. lol.
SoulStar
Lmao at the picture!!! (now im yelling) some woman really dont like it. some woman (ag's) im sure have tried it but its to painful to try a second time. some ag's let there fem girl strap off b/c they dont have a problem with it or feel they are less "aggressive." then u have other ag's that just feel like a man and not having it. other ag's only let the woman they really, really love do it just b/c their fem girl wants to. not all femmes want to strap on anyway.. but my point is every1 is different.
ReplyDeleteTo each "her" own. I dont think its wrong for an agressive female to recieve the strap. Im also one thats not really into labels either. At the end of the night when we are in the bedroom and naked, we are both 2 lesbian woman looking to enjoy each others bodies and to please each other. People should be open to reach new and more interesting levels of pleasure. In addition, if an agressive does opt to take the strap, what she does in her bedroom should be private...she shouldnt feel worried unless she puts herself on blast. AND if she is worried about her lover...maybe she should date more mature woman. Ladies...dont knock it until you try it...AG's want us to be sexully open...I only expect the same in return
ReplyDeleteLustin41thug here...lol...one more thing...me as a "femm" not a huge fan of the strap...does that make me weird? Or does that make me less of a "femm"...I dont think so....
ReplyDeleteI dont think your sexual likes , dislikes need to be labeled. People just be free and do wut " makes ya feel soo goood !" =) I KNOW I DO!! Enjoy your weekend and have fun in the bedroom!
ReplyDeleteI hear you all, Anonymous I feel you too, why label it or put boundaries on sex. I feel like sex is an exchange and should be free. I feel like if you like it, dont deny yourself because of what others label you as, "aggressive" or "femme". It just makes me upset when people talk about it like because your viewed as more aggressive you cant do "feminine" things in the bedroom. We are all women.
ReplyDeleteTo each his own but in my own opinon and in past and present relationships that has never been something that I was into that does not make me any less of a fem I enjoy sex just like the next but just without that if I wanted a man I would be straight and take that but I don't and I'm not like I said whatever floats ya boat
ReplyDeleteAlright SoulStar, your more than correct on that note.I don't feel it's wrong for an aggressive woman to take the strap,cause technically whether your a femme or ag, my urge to do it will still persist.Being open minded to try new things doesn't make you any less aggressive.I don't understand when ag's say they don't wanna be touched in certain ways, or won't do this/that,etc.Don't you wanna feel how I felt?!Absolutely, we are identical underneath the clothes. After trying, if you don't enjoy it, you can pat yourself on the back for going for the gusto.What better way to make sex more exciting?!Whatever happened to sex being an 'OPEN THING',no restrictions.On another note folks, stop being afraid to do something you haven't done.I'm sure you'll try that new cajun shrimp in a restaurant,treat sex the same way:)
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fu*k the lables femmes, ag's do what makes u happy. we are all woman aka lesbians.
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I don’t feel like liking penetration makes me less of a Lesbian. Preferring women over men makes me a lesbian not my sexual preferences. Your body was designed to enjoy penetration. That’s like a straight woman saying "I don’t do clitoral stimulation, don’t go down on me that’s for lesbians" Please…. I agree, everyone has different preferences sexually and I’m not saying all women need to be sexually penetrated. I’m just simply saying that if that’s what you like, don’t let the labels society and the community put on you, keep you from your climax.
ReplyDelete@yello - great analogy with the cajun shrimp! :) Your analogy just reminded me that there are levels of dopamine released in the brain from sex as well as food. Hence the term "foodgasm" =)
ReplyDeleteI think i will try the trio sampler this weekend ....nothing wrong with a lil menage..." oops I am going off on a different topic here" LMAO
Not sure, no comment
ReplyDeleteI can only speak for myself, whatever people do in their bedrooms are their business...whatever floats your boat. I personally cannot take penetration, I no longer consider myself an aggressive I am simply me but I am a dominant being. In my relationship I like balance she is also a very dominant person but in your terms she's a fem. In my bed I like to be free and I like to experiment, try new things, do old things and whatsoever comes up. I like to get head and I'm not talking about sucking on plastic, I am talking about getting my pussy eaten. I'll keep it raw, we're all grown. I love oral sex it's great, she agrees with me lol. Penetration tho i think if you're body can handle it then I think people should be open to it. Sex is an act, the physical art of love and I personally think if you love the person you're fucking then let the love be without limitations. If you're embarrassed in bed then you're sex must be boring, whack, robotic. You're partner knows what to expect everytime and no one wants that. So aggressives if you're down with that woman and you can open up to her and take penetration do it. Forget what people think. You make your bed you lay in it. Femmes if your aggressive cannot perform such an act you have a choice respect her and deal with it or leave.
ReplyDeletewhat we also have to think about is everyone's body is different and so is our minds sure we all have vagina's but we're still individuals. I actually had sex with a woman who never been with a man before and she prefers penetration over oral sex. I was completely confused for a sec with her. I wondered if she was straight but I know she isn't people have preferences and can't really knock anyone for their sexuality.
ReplyDelete@akila I'm with u on that. I'm very open with my girl in bed. What I won't do the next bitch will. I never really used to role play, that was something new to me but I was with it. Ill do what I have to inorder for her to be happy plus its fun. I'm labled as an ag but I'm not. I'm a lady.lol that likes fems. my babe takes control from time to time and I find it very sexy that a woman in some sexy pumps take control and throw me up on the wall from time to time. *wink*
ReplyDelete@ da general glad to see i'm not the only one who doesn't wear masks. i find it extremely sexy when women take what they want. hard to stop a determined woman. i love fierceness ;) by the way role playing is amazing especially when u have two creative minds it's kinda electrifying when u take control of ur fantasies.
ReplyDelete1st off lol @ the pic.. smh i how thats not sold in stores..lol
ReplyDeleteok so.. everyone is diff and I for one def do not like the labels and i hate being labeled..just because i shop in the men's dept does not mean im an "AG".. UGHH.. i think women are women period and it's all a matter of comfort. However, I find it disturbing that an "AG" will walk around all hard, grillin other tomboys etc.. when they are getting piped! That unecessary behavior makes me give those women the side eye!! I agree that what you wont do the next chick will, like the peeps above stated! 90% of sex is mental anyway.. so if your comfortable and able to explore sex & be fun.. it shouldnt matter whether you wear pumps or boxers! Personally I never had sex with a dude & Im not taking no one's strap PERIOD! If I ever get married, that will be my gift to the woman i love.. until then .. hell to the no! peace
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@imsoflyy34 that's so sweet.
ReplyDeleteI was once with this AG who would stop sex even after i accidently licked around her booty lol. She got sooo upset lecturing me that AGs "dont do that girly shit" and dont ever do it again. Needless to say i dumped her ass. I feel like we r all women and should experiment n enjoy our bodies smh. I still have never been with an AG who liked the strapy...only heard from my friend that her lady lets her. But like others have said-only those in LOVE allow it to happen
ReplyDeleteWell many aggressives like many FTM's identify more with their masculine side...so it doesnt feel right for them to be penetrated. Some women just do not enjoy penetration, the real stimulation comes from the clit anyway. To each their own. I am attracted to aggressive women for the masculine qualities and personally would not enjoy screwing my girl with a strap anymore than I would want to f*ck a man with one if I were a heterosexual woman.
ReplyDeleteMy partner/girlfriend and I have a very fulfilling sex life, however she does not like penetration. She has tried it before me and never like it. She honestly does not get off that way. One the other hand she loves to penetrate me with all sorts of things. I don't mind. I was practically a virgin when I met her and she basically eased me into it. I am very femm and she is what I would call an in betweener, sporty fem butch. She doesn't really like labels. However, she is way aggressive than me in the bedroom. When we have tried to turn the tables in the bedroom she has laughed at me. Sometimes I feel like I am lacking something, but even with my other girlfriends I have always been the submissive/femm one. I don't mind it because I am kind of masochistic. Also, my girlfriend has a thing about being touched. She has said that she prefers to give rather than receive. I mean it works for us. When I tell some of my close friends, they have expressed concerns. They wonder if my girlfriend truly receives pleasure, because is not engaging in penetration. She doesn't even like to receive oral sex. Sometimes I think that she has a gender identity issue. She has said that during sex she does feel more male and often becomes depressed that she cannot "really" penetrate me with a real penis. I believe that sex is different with different people. I think that if something works for a couple then it is fine. Even if it is outside of sexual norms. I mean not all women like penetration and they don't have to
ReplyDelete@ Tha General... lol i try
ReplyDeleteDo you feel like its wrong for an "aggressive" woman to take the strap in the bedroom?
ReplyDeleteI have dealt with a female ag who let me once...and she liked it but eventually, she came to a point where she found herself not liking the way she felt about it. She enjoyed the penetration but continued to say things like "I jus feel like im losing myself sometimes". When she said that, i backed off. I still don't quite understand that. But maybe some of them feel like they have a skinny line that separates the femininity from the maculinity.and both are tested....overall, every aggressive is different and I think that's great. I feel like it is right. Now for her to DENY that she likes it, may be a problem for her. It aint no problem for me unless it causes a break in the relationship. It's all about her finding comfort in her sex.
"why not enjoy sex the way your body is designed to enjoy it?"
i do like penetration. its nice. but i dont think i really had that xplosive one many straight and bi women rant about. i believe i am missing that. i feel that perhaps my body ISN'T designed to enjoy that. but maybe one day, that can change. if not though, i can still experience the magic she performs in the bedroom with no complaints or feelin like i am missing something. a simple kiss even does the trick for me.